Is this what your partner says each time you initiate sex? Read on to find out how you can get your lover into the mood.
In a relationship, it often happens that while one partner is interested in sexual activity, the other loses interest. A low sexual desire is considered one the most prevalent problems among women, but recent studies show that men too face the same. This can be a rather sensitive topic for couples to deal with as it can affect the self-esteem of both partners.
A lack of sexual interest on the part of your partner does not necessarily mean that his/her feelings have changed for you. But if you are concerned about your partner's lack of desire, pay attention to your relationship. Take out some alone time when both of you can re-connect as a couple. Don't stress out your partner; instead try to tune into what he/she might be feeling.
When couples are in a loving and caring relationship low sexual desire may cause one partner to repeatedly feel hurt or rejected, culminating in feelings of resentment. Sex can either bring a couple closer or cause a problem that gradually drives them apart. If you feel you have reached a dead-end and your partner is considerably less interested in sex, then consider going for counseling before it ruins your relationship. Remember low libido is a natural part of a relationship cycle; just make sure it isn't a permanent problem.
Tips to turn on the heat!
Feed your lover finger-foods and make him/her feel like royalty. Try aphrodisiac foods like strawberries, chocolates and oysters.
While cuddling your partner, turn on the heat by giving him/her a sensual back and neck rub.
Make an audio-CD of your lover's favourite romantic tunes. Anything that will help re-kindle the romance.
Leave affectionate, naughty notes for your lover in parts of the house you know he/she will find them. Write a love letter. Just a couple of lines to tell your partner how you feel.
Send text messages during the day to let your lover know that he/she is on your mind.
Make everyday activities special. When having dinner , light some candles and put on some soft music.
Offer to do a favour for your partner or get him/her a small surprise gift.
Do something crazy together-Go for an impromptu weekend trip or spend the day at an amusement park.
Take a sensual bath together. Use aromatic bathing oils and bubbles.
Whip up a meal for your lover and serve it to him/her in bed.
Compliment your mate from time to time. Make sure he/she knows that you notice the small details.
When your lover helps you with an errand, reward him/her with kisses.
Surprise your partner by going to his/her office with a bouquet of flowers or take him/her out on a lunch date.
Take a walk down the beach together in the evening. Then suddenly turn towards your partner to give them a passionate kiss.
Give him/her love coupons that can be redeemed anytime . Coupons for a free back-rub , a sensual bath, candle-lit dinner etc.
Wednesday 11 June 2008
Friday 6 June 2008
make your skin glow with yoga
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How Yoga Helps
Yoga gives your skin a healthy glow by balancing your hormones and boosting the flow of oxygen-rich blood to your skin. This keeps your skin resilient and prevents dryness and excessive sagging. Yoga also tones the muscles of your face and neck. These poses target your facial skin.
What to Do
Practice these poses every day.
Who Found Relief
Silvia Scura, 50, a human resources manager from Essex Fells, N.J., always had nice skin, but she worried that her skin would change as she approached menopause. She was determined not to take hormone replacement therapy, so she assumed that she would see some wrinkles.
She had tried yoga in her 30s, and seven years ago she returned to a regular practice. As a result, she says, three years ago she "sailed through menopause with the yoga glow." Her skin condition didn't change, and only a wrinkle or two has emerged.
Committed to a daily practice of deep breathing and a variety of postures (including those shown here), Scura says yoga is now central to her life. "For me, yoga is the answer to a lot of life's questions," she says. As a bonus, the varicose veins she developed in her late 30s have disappeared.
1 Face Massage
1. Sit on the floor with a tall spine with your eyes closed, and rub your hands together vigorously to warm them. Place all your fingertips on your eyebrows with your pinkie fingers next to each other. Firmly press along your brows, moving your right hand to the right and your left hand to the left, until you reach your temples. Repeat this several times, each time moving up a quarter-inch until you reach your hairline. Imagine you are smoothing out worry lines.
2. Place your fingertips on the bridge of your nose and swipe downward along your cheekbones, as if you are wiping away tears, as pictured. Repeat.
3. Press your fingertips into your temples and make small circles.
4. Open your mouth. Press the heels of your hands into your jaw (near your ear lobes), and make more small circles.
5. Use your fingertips to press your chin up toward your cheeks, as if you were molding your skin into a smile.
6. Repeat steps 1 to 5, this time using a gentler, lighter touch and adding a circular motion to all the steps. Your entire massage should last at least 10 minutes.
2 Lion
simha = lion
Step by Step
Kneel on the floor and cross the front of the right ankle over the back of the left. The feet will point out to the sides. Sit back so the perineum snuggles down onto the on the top (right) heel.
Press your palms firmly against your knees. Fan the palms and splay your fingers like the sharpened claws of a large feline.
Take a deep inhalation through the nose. Then simultaneously open your mouth wide and stretch your tongue out, curling its tip down toward the chin, open your eyes wide, contract the muscles on the front of your throat, and exhale the breath slowly out through your mouth with a distinct "ha" sound. The breath should pass over the back of the throat.
Some texts instruct us to set our gaze (drishti) at the spot between the eyebrows. This is called "mid-brow gazing" (bhru-madhya-drishti; bhru = the brow; madhya = middle).Other texts direct the eyes to the tip of the nose (nasa-agra-drishti; nasa = nose; agra = foremost point or part, i.e., tip).
You can roar two or three times. Then change the cross of the legs and repeat for the same number of times.
3 Forward Elbow Clasp
Caution: Avoid this pose if you have glaucoma, a detached retina, eye or ear inflammation, uncontrolled high blood pressure, or a history of heart disease or stroke, or if you are pregnant.
1. Stand with your feet about hip width apart and your arms at your sides.
2. Keep your feet rooted to the floor as you fold forward from your hips, keeping your back flat. Continue until your torso is hanging from your hips, and then grasp each elbow with the opposite hand, as pictured. If you feel unsteady, stand a few inches away from a wall and lean your buttocks against the wall. Keep your legs strong and allow your torso to spill out of your waist like a waterfall, noticing the weight of your head. Gaze through your legs to the wall behind you. Hold for 3 to 10 breaths. Imagine that you are bowing to your inner beauty.
3. To release, lift your abdominal muscles toward your spine and keep your back flat as you raise your torso to an upright position. Unhook your elbows and pause to notice how you feel. If you are lightheaded, sit or lie down for a moment.
Yoga for tired skin brightening
One signature quality of youthful-looking skin: a subtle glow and rosy sheen that shouts health and vibrancy. The good news is that radiant skin is easy to achieve with relatively little effort - just some good habits, says bicoastal dermatologist Karyn Grossman, M.D.
THE BASIC FACTS
Every month, the outermost layer of skin, the epidermis, sheds dead skin cells that lie on its surface, allowing new cells underneath to take their place. "Light reflects unevenly against dead or dehydrated cells, giving skin a dull appearance," explains Grossman. When cells are smooth, moisturized and new, light reflects off them evenly - giving skin a healthy sheen.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR
Dull-looking skin isn't hard to miss, but here are some other characteristics:
* Your skin looks tired. You look in the mirror, and your complexion just doesn't shout radiance.
* It feels rough and/or dry. Poorly hydrated skin lacks that dewy glow.
* You have uneven pigmentation (brown spots) and/or broken blood vessels. These signs of sun damage can also be precursors to dull skin, explains Grossman.
SIMPLE SOLUTIONS
You can get healthy, radiant skin. Beauty Rx:
1. Make exfoliation a part of your daily routine. Slough off dead skin cells with chemical ingredients (alpha- or beta-hydroxy acids), physical scrubs or tretinoin-based prescription products like Retin-A or Renova. Try beComing Rapid Return Exfoliating Scrub Mask ($13; www.ibecome.com).
2. Keep skin hydrated. Well-moisturized skin is radiant, says Grossman, who recommends hyaluronic-acid-based products for oily skin and essential-fatty-acid-based products for normal to dry skin. Two favorites: SkinCeuticals Hydrating [B.sub.5] Gel with hyaluronic acid ($55; skinceuticals.com) and Prada Reviving Bio-Firm Concentrate/Face with essential fatty acids ($130; neimanmarcus.com).
3. Apply light-reflecting products. Try Prescriptives Virtual Youth makeup, a moisturizing and light-reflecting treatment foundation ($32.50; prescriptives.com).
4. Get a power peel once a month. Microdermabrasion (sloughing off the outer layer of skin with a blast of air-powered tiny particles) and dermatologist-administered chemical peels can help jump-start your skin's glow.
RELATED ARTICLE: WHAT WORKS "Today's consumers are much more educated about skin than ever before," explains Karyn Grossman, M.D., a celebrity dermatologist who caters to clients in both New York City and Santa Monica, calif. "They want new, fast, effective - and less-invasive - ways to get youthful-looking skin. And as dermatologists we need to be able to demystify everything that's out there for them." One key characteristic of youthful-looking skin: radiance. "Healthy skin has a dewy glow," she explains. A balanced diet and a healthy body can help you achieve that, but it also takes the right skin-care regimen. "Sunscreen is a must," she says, "and pampering your skin with products that exfoliate, even out the complexion and superhydrate will give you,that red-carpet glow."
Wednesday 4 June 2008
शिव व्रत
Offerings: Monday is the day of Shiva. The god's favourite colour is white. He likes white flowers, white clothes and a white seat. Even his home is amidst the snow-covered gleaming white peaks of the Himalayas. When offering a puja to the god, do it with white flowers and white sweets for the naivedyam .
Ritual: Shiva's devotees should observe a strict fast on Mondays, eating only after sunset. Unlike other fasts, one cannot eat in the afternoon and skip the evening meal. A rudra abhishek (ritual bath amidst chanting of mantras ) should be offered to the Shivalinga in the home shrine. During the puja , a specific number of bilva leaves must be offered to the Shivalinga. In the evening, a naivedyam of rice and curds should be offered.
However, unlike usual practice, this naivedyam cannot be eaten as prasad . It should instead be taken to a Shiva temple and given to the priest or offered to a cow. Occasionally, a Brahmin or a married woman should be invited for meals. Devotees should chant the mantra Om Namah Shivay throughout the day.
Special Mondays: If it is not possible to observe a fast every Monday, one should at least observe a fast on the Mondays in the month of Shravan. These days are especially auspicious.
Sixteen Mondays: If you are seeking something specific from the God, it is advisable to observe a vrat (religious ritual) of 16 Mondays. Observed in honour of Lord Shiva, it can be started on any Monday of the bright fortnight of the months of Vaishakh, Shravan, Kartik or Magh. A fast is observed on next 16 Mondays and the udyapan of the vrat (conclusion) is performed on the 17th Monday.
Every Monday, a detailed puja is performed with 16 offerings. Although the devotee is allowed to eat food cooked without salt, crystal sugar or thick sweet roti (bread), many observe a strict fast. A naivedyam of crystal sugar or roti (thick sweet bread) is prepared for Lord Shiva. Before offering it to the god, the naivedyam is divided into three parts. One part is offered to the god, one part is distributed amongst friends and relatives and the third part is eaten by the devotee. On the 17th Monday, the devotee offers a mahapuja to Shiva at a Shiva temple. Flowers of golden champak, bilva, lotus, bakuli and punnag are essential for this puja .
Naivedyam: Sweet rotis are made of 5 kg of wheat flour, one and quarter kilogram of clarified butter and one and quarter kilogram of jaggery. These are roasted on fire fuelled by cow dung cakes. One third of the rotis are offered to the Shivalingam in the temple, one third are distributed as prasad and one third are distributed amongst relatives during meals.
Vrat for Jagannath: During the month of Chaitra, the Somvar vrat is observed for Lord Jagannath. A person who has been on a pilgrimage to Jagannath Puri or whose family member has undertaken this pilgrimage can observe it. Devotees observe a fast and, in the evening, Lord Jagannath is ritually worshipped. A naivedyam is offered and the prasad is eaten. The devotee can then break the fast.
You have to fast till evening and do Puja. You should not eat onions, garlic, nonveg etc. In the evening you can take the Prasadam after offering it to God. You can recite Shiva manasa puja slokam and Shivanandalahari. Read the somavar vrat katha .
One who observes this vratam would get to enjoy many pleasures in this world and finally would reach the kailAsham.
The moon observed this vratam and got his "moonness". He saluted the Lord gauri- shankara and requested that this vratam be called soma vAra vratam (One of the names of the moon is soma. One of the name of Lord shiva with goddess umA is also soma) and whoever follows this vratam should get their wishes materialised by the grace of the Lord and finally should get the liberation. God granted the boon.
Long ago a princess called sIman^thini was observing this vratam regularly. Then two young boys cunningly came as if they were a married couple. The princess worshiped them. The young boys really became male and female couple !
The austerous sage vaShiShTa got the chaste arun^thadhi as his wife. One gets blessed by the shiva-shakti on observing this vratam sincerely
Rituals to be followed for the Monday fast:
The Monday fast is upto the third phase. During the fast phalahar (fasting food) can be eaten. There is no hard and fast rule except that there should be only one meal eaten on that day and worship or puja of Shiva and Parvati is to be done.
There are three types of Monday fast.
1).Simple every Monday fast. 2).Som pradosh fast 3).16 weeks Monday fast.
The rituals are same for all the three fasting. After doing the Shiva puja the story must be read or heard. The stories of Pradosh fast and 16 Mondays are separate and are given here.
see for it in the link http://www.s-a-i.info/assoc_change/…
see for solah somvar katha in the link :
http://satyamshivamsundaram.blogspo…
in hindi and english version of katha u see in the link below :
http://www.indif.com/nri/kathas/Som…
in hindi u can also see the link http://www.bhaktisangeet.com/vratka…
u can see vratha vidhi,aarthi,katha in hindi in the link http://www.onlinemandir.com/day1.ht…
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Seek astrological guidance, but don't be totally dependent on it. The astrologer has many limitations. No astrologer has the final say in any matter. Plan intelligently, remembering the astrologer's advice. Any pariharas (remedies) suggested by the astrologer can be adopted as long as they are spiritually oriented and do not involve unnecessary expenditure. Such remedies (as per Parasara the father of Indian astrology) are prayers and chanting of Mantras. Other remedies, which involve huge costs are not reliable and are mostly suggested by dishonest astrologers. Accept your Prarabdha and do your duties cheerfully. Know that you cannot escape your Prarabdha. Even Yogic can help you only to postpone it, not avert it! But there is one area where you have total freedom. That is your current karma (Kriyaman).
You can determine the course of action. You can bring in an anti-current of thoughts, a current of noble, spiritual thoughts, thoughts guided by Dharma. It is never too late to change the course of action. In the Kriyaman area, do good deeds. Let Dharma guide you. Some times there may be a conflict between free will (Kriyaman) and destiny (Prarabdha). However powerful Prarabdha is, DO NOT DESPAIR. Do your duties cheerfully without being excessively attached to the fruits of your actions. Surrender yourself to God and do your duties with a Nimitta Bhava. Great Yogic like Bhisma and Vasishta have placed Purushartha or exertion (free will) above destiny. Do not underestimate the role of Kriyaman Karma, your Free Will to change the course of action.
Advanced people do not need astrology. They accept Prarabdha as God's will while the ignorant person develops pathological dependence on astrology, starts despairing, lapses into inaction or makes half-hearted attempts. It is perhaps for this reason that reformist thinkers like Swami Vivekananda and Swami Dayananda Saraswati were opposed to astrology. But saints like Sri Ramakrishna who was Swami Vivekananda's guru, spoke positively about astrology, because they had the attitude of a bhakta (devotee) and see all this as a 'play of the divine'. It all depends on how we take it. The devotee (bhakta) sees only Prarabdha. The vedantin (gnani) sees only Purushartha. Both are correct, because these are two sides of the same coin. The bhaktha (devotee) feels it is all Prarabdha only. Yet there is no fatalism in this. Prarabdha is only Purushartha (efforts born of free will) of previous births. Purushartha combined with Prarabdha brings effects. A man who is sick has to take the medicine (Purushartha) and leave the result to Prarabdha. Through Purushartha, Markandeya conquered death. Vasishta advocates Purushartha to Sri Rama throughout the Yoga Vasishta. We are neither totally bound by destiny nor are we totally free. We have limited freedom like a cow that has been tied to a post in a field with a rope. It can move freely, but only within the limits of the field. We have limited freedom depending upon how much we can stretch our Karma.
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